Well, here we are at the 100 day mark! Is it wrong that I am not that stressed about the fact that I’m getting married in about 2 1/2 months??? Well, to be honest, I’m more excited than stressed! Anyone who understands the daily choir director struggle of corralling 300 teenagers knows that stress is an every day thing! You can either let it ruin your day or turn it into motivation :) So, my logic is that a one day event with 180 of my favorite people on earth couldn’t be that bad! Right? Haha. I’m sure I will eat my words in the near future.
Ya’ll. I can’t express how excited I am for this new chapter of my life. God is so gracious. It seemed like just yesterday that we were talking and making things official. The more days and months that go by I realize the Lord’s working through all of it. I just want to take a little moment to reflect and brag/boast about a few wonderful things about our relationship that God has orchestrated.
God’s timing is truly perfect. For those of you who don’t know, I didn’t date anyone before SP. I decided early on that I didn’t want to date. While I was curious, I wanted to save that whole part of myself for that one person. But no lie: the loneliness got real as I got older. I was 25 when we met. I had graduated at 24 and was working my first teaching job, and while I kept myself very busy, at times, I would stop and ask the Lord about the next step. “Ummm... Okayyy, Lord, whenever you want to send him, go ahead! I’m done with school now, so I can commit to a relationship.” My parents and grandparents threw shade every now and then: “You can get married now!” “It would be nice to have some apos (grandkids.)” I felt the pressure, but I knew it had to be the man the Lord had created for me. Passages from John Piper’s book, Don’t Waste Your Life, and Lecrae’s Rehab were constantly cycling through my head. If I was really living for Christ, I wouldn’t waste my time looking, because God had already found him.
The night that we met was actually in the middle of a very difficult time in my life, and so many things in my life were taking a huge shift. The last thing on my mind was a relationship, and I believe that was the Lord’s plan. Months passed before I saw him as someone I was interested in, and I was in a much better place spiritually and emotionally. Everything happened naturally. There was no rush to tell the world that we were official and declaim our singleness! If you’re a young person waiting on the Lord, it is always worth the wait.
We don’t fight. While our relationship isn’t perfect and we disagree about things, I can honestly say that we have never fought since we’ve been together. I can’t count how many times people told us, “Oh, the first year is so great... Then you start showing who you really are and start fighting.” I think the key to this is that we know we are tethered together, and arguing is more like fighting yourself. Anyone who knows me knows that I hate any kind of conflict. I’d rather not engage. But since I’ve been with SP, I’ve slowly learned how to truthfully express my feelings (especially when I’m angry! or hangry... lol) and that’s been a major blessing of our relationship. The Lord gave us each separately peace in our hearts that we were meant to be together. We know we’re together for the long run, and that keeps us from hurting each other.
Same but different. Even though we come from very different backgrounds, most days I feel like SP and I were cut from the same cloth! We both thrive on great music and art. We both love food, especially if the restaurant/packaging is well designed. We share a love for all things New York City. Even if those things were all different between us, the most wonderful thing is that we share the same heart of serving the Lord Jesus Christ.
All that being said, God’s grace and mercy is evident in our lives. We are far from perfect and definitely not scar-free from our pasts. But God has done great things in our lives separately and together for His glory. We can’t wait to start working together as husband and wife for His kingdom.
Thanks for reading my lovey-dovey blurb! Updates to come.